Would your dad be proud?
About a week ago, someone posted a picture on my news feed of two boys kissing and said “Like if you would beat your sons ass if you seen him kissing another boy”. Why would any parent want to see their kid making out with anyone, gay or straight? The bigger issue should have been the behavior or act of two kids kissing…the sex of the kids was irrelevant to me.
That picture set off quite a “conversation” and while I respect everyone’s right to their opinion it turns out that the person who posted the picture is in the “adult industry”. Glass houses anyone?? This individual took aim at me for some reason and I was subjected to such comments as “your just a baby’s daddy” and “all baby daddy’s ain’t shit”….wow. I was struck by the sheer ignorance of her comments considering her current career choice. I wonder if her dad is proud; do you think he has a picture of her in her best “pole position” in his wallet to show his friends and/or co-workers? I would bet that this person grew up without her “dad” or maybe she has a “baby daddy” that she’s angry at; I say that because she seemed to challenge me solely on the name of my website and my willingness to support my kids, no matter what choices they make for their lives.
One of the lessons I got from this was that a lot of people are too busy being self righteous to see their own hypocrisy; but the most important lesson I took from this conversation is that people need to be very careful about how they say what they say. Let me clear; anytime you want to refer to anyone as “just “ something, or make sweeping generalizations like “all baby daddy’s aint shit” you display a level of ignorance that is actually scary. Ok, you work in the adult industry and you probably “know” a lot of men, but unless and until you have met EVERY BABY DADDY ON THE PLANET then you can’t say they are “all” anything. Let’s aim those comments her way; I bet she would be insulted if I referred to her as “JUST A STRIPPER” or suggested they are just like prostitutes or escorts. I’m more respectful and open minded than that and I won’t knock anyone for their choices.
I know the topic of being gay is a hot button issue right now and a lot of people have strong feelings about whether it’s a choice or biology; I don’t know the answer but if one of my kids was gay I wouldn’t judge them, shun them or stop loving them; but then again, I’m “just a baby’s daddy”…..
The Baby Daddy Guru….
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